It is hard to make me angry, but when I do get angry, everything you ever did to aggravate for the past however many years . . . it all comes out.

I feel you! I was raised to take care of other people because I had a disabled brother. I was always helping. I don't speak up when things happen, but I sure do add them to the ledger.

Guilty

One of the most profound things I learned was to attack the issue/offense/action and not the other person

As a caretaker for a parent with dementia, I learned to listen even though its the same memory being spoken over and over. Using your listening skills in whatever conversation can prevent anger and frustration for you both.

Good point Jaylynn. When I was doing home health, I would always tell the family that.

Men being aware of the way we take up space in arguments (privilege) is actually very helpful and necessary. We must always be aware of power dynamics when conflict arises.

This is a very helpful topic

One thing that helps me, if I can't address anything right away is to write down my perception of what happened. If I write it down, I can distance myself.

Great Point!

I have a close friend with whom I disagree on a very serious topic. We have listened to each other without trying to change the other person's opinion, but we have developed a respect for each others opinion. And it is a topic that we don't bring up.

That’s a great strategy and suggestion, Theresa!

Great tip!

Language is Very important.

This is excellent advice. What are your thoughts on communicating with known high-conflict individuals (those who always have the last word, have to be right, you're always wrong, etc.)? Does this approach work?

I tell my clients that you can be right or you can be in relationship.

Good question.

Thank you, sometimes those conflicts do reach a place where you have to just take care of yourself.

Come to the realty that you can not change it

Self-Care definitely!

Great presentation! You did a good job!

Great presentation!